Let me begin with ” There was a teacher ” there was a lady , there was a friend , there are certain people in life who touch our hearts !
When you begin school its a major event. Even as a little kid you are scared , nervous , anxious, petrified even ! All these feelings for such a little being can be quiet overwhelming, cant they ?
And now as a mother myself, i realise what my kids have felt. And my youngest daughter Faye will experience when she goes to big school .
I think the knowing & feeling all of these emotions makes us, “The Mom’s” feel even worse. We know what lies ahead for them !
The feelings that our kids are experiencing are running through us at that particular moment in time (as they begin the journey throught school).
It’s heightened & as a mom we have an emotional awareness, with each of my kids I have felt probably worse than they did.
Hoping and wishing everything will be ok for them on there first day of big school !
Memories last a lifetime and moments in time or words spoken can affect us hugely as individuals in life .
I don’t really remember my first day at school but I do remember my time in a convent school in Tralee Co.Kerry, well actually I tell a lie ,I only recall one thing from my time there and that is that I didn’t really like nuns and I did like the lollipop lady !
You see I was in class and had needed to go to the loo so I raised my hand and politely asked sister ???? whats her face (sorry no disrespect to nuns ) could I go to the toilet . Off I toddled to the little girls room where I quickly did my business and then went to open the Toilet door.
To my horror it was jammed tight absolutely no shifting it whatsoever …..
You would have thought I would have screamed for help but being slightly scared of the nuns I did not and for the next few hours or what felt like hours I sat teary eyed and frightened on the toilet (lid down of course) .
I thought after the initial shock wore off about how the hell I was going to get out of here ?
I tried and failed to climb out over the door !
You would have thought that by this time sister whats her face would have missed the New girl who nipped to the loo but she didn’t (the auld bat ) sorry sister !!!!
I sat tears rolling down my cheeks thinking about how uncared for I was and how could it be that no one missed me …..
I heard a loud beep …beep…beep…
And it was the school bell to say school was out for the day OH NO !!!!
Panic set in and I jumped up looking searching trying to think what I could do when it struck me try to squeeze out under the door and I did just that , it was a tight squeeze but I did it !
I didn’t run to get my school bag or anything like that as nearly all the kids were gone out the door at that stage ,
I ran straight out the front door tears rolling down my face and I probably looked fairly shaken , I stood by the gate and waited …..The lollipop lady was looking at me with a worried look and came straight over to see what it was that ailed me .
I blurted out the whole story and she was so so nice and caring, she stayed with me until my mom collected me from school and I remember her giving me a “bullseye” , sweet I loved it and sucked it slowly savouring it as if it was almost soothing me after my, HORRENDIOUS ORDEAL as a kid of 5 it was in my world !
So even though this all happened well over 30 years ago it’s still so fresh in my memory as if it only happened yesterday !
So to you the lovely caring LOLLIPOP LADY thank you for being so kind that day XXX
And anytime I have a “Bullseye”, I think how kind you were to me that day ….
Another person who as a kid touched my life was a teacher.
I wasnt the smartest straight A student or in the cool gang , but I always did my best and had lots of friends .
I always remember looking forward to getting my school reports in the post to see what the teachers had said about me ….
Silly really that it felt so important , what people (like) the teachers thought of me ?
But I suppose we always seek approval in life acceptance a feeling that we matter that were liked !
I usually got things like, and I quote
“Marie trys hard , I find her to be pleasant and worked to her ability”.
“Marie trys hard and will do well if she keeps up the hard work”
Theres always one ….
A remark that sticks in your mind and as a kid it hurts, and instantly a memory is formed in a little brain to be kept there for all time .
We may forget these things but every now and again we remember ….
The older we get the less we care but as a kid in school one teachers remark was
” Marie will struggle and find next year very difficult “
I HAVE NEVER FORGOTTEN THAT TEACHER & HOW UPSET I FELT READING THOSE WORDS ,
so be careful what you say ….
Encourage , build self esteem, praise …it is easier to build up a child than it is to repair an adult …
choose your words wisely
Food for thought eh ????